Also, making fun of anyone who is a victim of abuse by calling them immature or a whiner or morality police for having concerns is incredibly uncool. Someone’s comfort and safety, no matter who they are, even an ‘anonymous hater’, is more important than your or my or anybody’s pretendy fun times.
I can’t believe I even have to say that.
I’ve tried being compassionate, and yet, the harassment continues. I was in no way “making fun” of you/them/whatever. I was telling them that harassing someone because they don’t like what their fictional character is roleplaying is immature, because - shock! - it is immature.
Oh yeah by the way I was mentally and physically abused my entire life up until I was 12 and then the next time I trusted an adult male he raped me so forgive me when I really don’t consider being a victim of abuse a valid reason to continually harass someone.
If they can’t be proactive in protecting their own mental health by avoiding triggering things, they need to get off of the internet. Period. I’ve done my fucking damnedest to do what I can on my end to help with that, and harassing everyone I roleplay with in addition to me is not fucking okay. I’m sick of this shit. It is not my responsibility to make sure everyone is a-okay. It’s theirs. Allow me to repeat myself:
If you cannot take personal responsibility for your own mental health, that doesn’t mean it becomes everyone else’s job.
I can’t even believe I have to say that.
Edit: I missed a post, all I saw was this one, before any further shit is lost. I’m gonna update this, give me a bit.
Let me be clear, here. I don’t mind the asking for clarification; I personally took umbrage with the repeated asking and refusing to accept the answer given. In my response to the anon that I got (was that you, kwillow?), I was answering from that perspective, not anything having to do with Hon or Karen’s characters’ relationship (which, in my opinion, is unhealthy, but not yet abusive- just, you know, for the record.), or the answers given by Hon.
After taking a breath, I realize I’m getting very kneejerky thanks to some bullshit that went down a few months ago (Lloyd screaming at me about being a terrible roleplayer that only has smut threads, basically) and then got brought back up thanks to an asshole in Nikki’s stream that called me a pedophile for roleplaying my character. I have a friend who has been attacked by these people, and has had to withdraw from roleplay because it was making them so anxious they’ve actually lost weight. So i’m feeling pretty defensive.
I’m sorry that this has gotten to be such a shitfest, but I don’t take back anything I’ve said. I think you went over the line of asking for clarification into the realm of attacking someone for having opinions that differ from your own, and I still think that’s an incredibly uncool thing to do.
pardon my french but how the fuck was anything kwillow wrote “harassment?” anon ask #1 she asks if the mod agrees with their character’s reaction. anon ask #2 she clarifies further because neo mod asked how their character was abusive, obviously oblivious. By anon ask #2 people are hooting about her being the morality police. Anon ask #3 she clarifies her stance that it isn’t a matter of pitching a fit over seeing OCs do bad things, it’s a matter of whether or not the mod AGREES with their character’s bad behavior. Meanwhile, neo mod has already resigned to “quit harassing me!!” and you’re already telling her she’s immature for wanting to know whether or not neo mod agrees with neo’s action. The people who dropped civility first were you two. Not her.
Again, this isn’t about dumb abuse victims being too dumb to avoid their triggers. THIS IS ABOUT SOMEONE WANTING REASSURANCE THAT SOMEONE THEY KNOW ON FRIENDLY TERMS AND RP WITH ISN’T ROMANTICIZING THE THING THAT TRAUMATIZED THEM. Your edgy xXyour health isn’t my concernXx honking is completely irrelevant to the situation at hand. It literally was never part of Kwillow’s complaints. You brought it in to try and look bad ass. It didn’t work.
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